Actions Speak Louder Than Prayers: Be the Helpers

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
via Equality Florida’s GoFundMe As I struggled to form words to begin this post, a CNN notification just popped up to tell me that—as the world reels from the terror attack on Pulse, a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, which killed at least 50 people and injured at least 50…

Why #StopWoody Is Important to Me

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
A girl very much like I was. *Trigger warning for CSA* Some of you will know that I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA). When I heard that Amazon has signed Woody Allen to create a new TV show for them, it reminded me of this story:…

Jonathan Chait’s “Not A Very P.C. Thing To Say” in a nutshell

Originally posted on The Belle Jar:
Today in New York Magazine, Jonathan Chait discusses how hard it is to be a white man these days. In case you don’t have the time or moral energy to read his 5,000 word opus of angst, here’s a brief rundown. 1. If this article seems familiar, it’s because…

Friends don’t let friends read the Onion

The Problem With A Lively Debate

Originally posted on Dances With Fat:
The Facebook page “Unpacking the “F” word” posted a quote from my blog: “Fat people have the right to exist in fat bodies regardless of how we got fat, what being fat means, or if we could be thin through some means – however easy or difficult. There are…

American Girl: Representation Matters

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
image: Flickr user terren in Virginia I missed out on American Girl dolls, and somehow my daughter did, too. But for many women and girls in the US, they were and continue to be a big part of growing up. Their historical character dolls offer a glimpse into the…

On being a ‘perpetual victim’

December 04

The Ferguson Masterpost: How To Argue Eloquently & Back Yourself Up With Facts

The new online porn regulations and how they disproportionately affect women

Originally posted on Another angry woman:
Content note: this post discusses consensual BDSM Today, new regulations have come into force which bans vast swathes of online porn. Fisting’s on the list, obviously, because someone at the CPS has an enormous fetish for showing juries fisting porn. So is hard impact play, simulated non-consent, urination, facesitting,…

On misogyny in the gay community

Sheffield United need to listen up: rape is not acceptable

Originally posted on Another angry woman:
Content note: this post discusses rape and rape apologism At the time of writing, Sheffield United are still refusing to make a definitive statement on whether they will re-sign the rapist Ched Evans to the club. This decision is looking more bizarre by the day, as a scramble to…

put your damn shirt back on: my adventures in demisexuality

November 04

The Dismissal of Womanly Pain and Pressure to be the Strong Woman

Sheriff’s Office Re-Victimizes Rape Survivors

Originally posted on The Belle Jar:
Trigger warning for rape When Lori O’Brannon found a card in the mail from Clark County Sheriff’s office addressed to her 18 year old daughter Josie, she didn’t give it much thought. The card, a blue, standard post-card sized piece of cardboard, said that the evidence department had something to…

When Bad Allies Get “Good Guy” Awards

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
A while back I wrote about fake allies—specifically, Charles Clymer, a cis white dude who used to run a popular Facebook page called “Equality for Women” but shut it down amidst accusations that, among other things, he was deleting comments from and banning women who questioned his views…

September 12

This work injures me; this work heals me

They Are Not Trolls. They Are Men.

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
Oliver Rawlings Trigger warning for discussion of the various types of abuse perpetrated by those humans known as “trolls” incuding rape and death threats and suicide. Back in July, during Netroots Nation 2014, Zerlina Maxwell spoke on a panel about online harassment. I wasn’t there, but someone tweeted…

If She’s Not Having Fun You Have To Stop

This is about the nuts-and-bolts of how the work gets done. This is about parenting the next generation. A boy and a girl run around on the grass at the park. The boy tackles the girl. The girl laughs. She gets up and runs away. She loves to run. He chases, she turns and they…

Gender Focus | I Don’t Like Catcalls. Why Do You Care?

via Gender Focus: In a piece for the always classy New York Post, Doree Lewak wants all of us to know that “Hey Ladies – Catcalls are Flattering! Deal With It”. But as Natalie DiBlasio of USA Today points out, catcalls can actually be pretty frightening.I’m with DiBlasio on this one. If you’re familiar with my […]

Because I Didn’t Do Enough – #RWA14

From Amy Jo Cousins at Wonkomance.com: …I learned, or was reminded, of how well trained I am to shrug off harassment, to ignore being mistreated by someone, to declare that “it’s no big deal” when a man is inappropriate. I also learned, or was reminded, of how much easier it is to access my ability […]