Monthly Archives: April 2014

Dear Entitled Straight White Dudes

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
This is formal notice that I’m evicting you from my life. I’m utterly and completely over you. Your privilege allows you more platforms than anyone and ensures that your voice is always heard first and foremost. It lets you be pretty much anywhere you want anytime you want.…

An Open Apology To All The Girls I’ve Been Mean To

Originally posted on The Belle Jar:
I’m sorry for all of the times that I’ve said that I’m not like other girls, implying that there was something defective or inferior about being a girl. I’m sorry for how hard I’ve tried to be “different,” not because being different felt authentic but because I was afraid that…

Moving Beyond The “Consent Is Sexy” Narrative

The Choice to Be Silent

Originally posted on Make Me a Sammich:
Trigger warning: discussion of rape. Note: This post has been updated since its original publication. I just kept having more to say on the subject. Also, I’d like to amend “silent” in the title because while many survivors choose not to report, we are often far from silent…

I created Paul Elam, and now I need your help to rein him in

Originally posted on we hunted the mammoth:
The jig is up. I and my collaborators have kept it secret for a long time now, but for reasons I will explain in a moment, I feel I need to come clean about this now, before it is too late: I created Paul Elam. That is: “Paul…